Well, I have my first date....thanks to Plenty Of Fish! He's 43, former marine, stocky. Definitely my type of guy from first impressions. He seems really nice. But hell, they all do in the beginning. There is one issue though. He told me he is a very picky eater. Ugh! I had an experience with a picky eater a few years ago and it ultimately ended our relationship. Seriously. I had no idea that it would have the effect that it did. The guy would only eat meat and cheese. That's it. No fruits, veggies or condiments of any kind, ever. At first I thought fine, no big deal. But it interfered with nearly everything we did. Correction....HE LET IT interfere. Everything we did had to revolve around his pickyness. He refused to just go with the flow and make accommodations for himself because of his weird hang ups about food. Instead he expected everyone else to make accommodations for him and to jump through hoops and cater to him. It was ridiculous. I took the guy to NYC with me and he pouted and moped around the whole time because we went to places where he said he couldn't find anything to eat. He would sit through dinner with a scowl on his face then go to Subway. You are in freakin' New York City and you are eating at Subway???? Give me a fucking break! Turns out the guy had some pretty weird fetishes too. Hahahahahaha! I found out about a year after we broke up that he had a myspace page under the name of Lactation Lover. Oh yeh, you read that correctly. Apparently, from what I could gather, he wanted to meet up with women who were lactating. I guess cheese wasn't the only dairy product he enjoyed after all. Gross!!!
So, the date with the Marine is on Monday. Dinner and a movie. Should be interesting......at the least the dinner part. Ha! ;-)
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Friday, May 27, 2011
Blogging while single....very similar to driving while intoxicated
So I had an epiphany this week. As I was looking at my matches on both of the dating sites that I signed up for I remembered my ex telling me about a different site that he uses. He and I recently spent some time together and talked about our failed relationship and the kind of people we are dating now and we had some brandy and well, you know.....but that's a whole different blog....lol. Actually this is supposed to be a "no holds barred" account of my dating life so I guess I should cough up the gory details on that situation.....but I'll save that story for another day. Anyway, I decided to sign up for yet a 3rd dating site. This is my summer plan. From now until the end of August I will keep a membership to all 3 sites. Eharmony picks matches for you, I will pick my own from Match.com and on PlentyOfFish.com I will only communicate with men that contact me first. Ingenious, I know. What has really intrigued me so far is that I keep seeing some of the same faces over and over again. So my question is, are these guys so horribly desperate that they feel they need to have multiple profiles, are they really tyring all avenues to find love or are they conducting a social experiment like myself? I guess we will see.
I am currently communicating with 2 men on eharmony. Most of the matches I get from that site are in Columbus or Lexington. I don't have a problem with that, I mean they're both only about 2 hours away. But I think that is a problem with using the Internet in this area, there just isn't a large pool of men within a 60 mile radius. Well, that is after you discount all the rednecks and the ones with tattoos on their neck and/or face. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind tattoos. They can be pretty damn sexy in the right place...but not on your face, hands, neck....I mean come on. You are not in prison, well at least not at the moment.
I sent lots of "winks" on match, but haven't had much response. I think I will broaden my radius a little. I will set it at the same distance as eharmony. And I also need to be a little more open minded. This is supposed to be an experiment to open up my eyes to different types of men. So, I need to contact some guys that I normally wouldn't be attracted to. It's hard for me to step out of my comfort zone. But for the sake of science, and material for my blog (and maybe a book someday) I will forge ahead.
Now, PlentyOfFish is completely different ballgame. It's kind of like a dollar store version of the other 2 sites. The pool of men is much larger. But I also think the pool of nut job losers is much larger. It's not nearly as detailed as the other two. There are only a few bullet points on the profiles. Two of which are "Do you have a car?" and "Do you have a job?" Seriously.....that cracks me up. I mean, are there really men who aren't employed and don't have a vehicle that are trying to date? I guess you don't really know someones situation, but come on! "You got to have a a J-O-B if you wanna be with me!" Sing it with me ladies!!!!
So now I'm just waiting for some actual dates. Normally I would get nervous thinking about meeting new people and all the awkwardness of first dates.....but with a different goal in mind, it's a little different. :-)
I am currently communicating with 2 men on eharmony. Most of the matches I get from that site are in Columbus or Lexington. I don't have a problem with that, I mean they're both only about 2 hours away. But I think that is a problem with using the Internet in this area, there just isn't a large pool of men within a 60 mile radius. Well, that is after you discount all the rednecks and the ones with tattoos on their neck and/or face. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind tattoos. They can be pretty damn sexy in the right place...but not on your face, hands, neck....I mean come on. You are not in prison, well at least not at the moment.
I sent lots of "winks" on match, but haven't had much response. I think I will broaden my radius a little. I will set it at the same distance as eharmony. And I also need to be a little more open minded. This is supposed to be an experiment to open up my eyes to different types of men. So, I need to contact some guys that I normally wouldn't be attracted to. It's hard for me to step out of my comfort zone. But for the sake of science, and material for my blog (and maybe a book someday) I will forge ahead.
Now, PlentyOfFish is completely different ballgame. It's kind of like a dollar store version of the other 2 sites. The pool of men is much larger. But I also think the pool of nut job losers is much larger. It's not nearly as detailed as the other two. There are only a few bullet points on the profiles. Two of which are "Do you have a car?" and "Do you have a job?" Seriously.....that cracks me up. I mean, are there really men who aren't employed and don't have a vehicle that are trying to date? I guess you don't really know someones situation, but come on! "You got to have a a J-O-B if you wanna be with me!" Sing it with me ladies!!!!
So now I'm just waiting for some actual dates. Normally I would get nervous thinking about meeting new people and all the awkwardness of first dates.....but with a different goal in mind, it's a little different. :-)
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Here we go!
I've never blogged before, but thought it would be a good way to chronicle this new chapter in my life. I am 38, never been married and have no children. I've been engaged once and had a handful of serious relationships. But, I haven't been able to get any of them to stick. I think it's because of the men I choose. I'm that girl that always wants to fix the guy. Well, maybe not fix so much, but I am definitely attracted to the assholes, thinking that getting a jerk to treat me well would be the ultimate score. This never happens....lol. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk. Period. I know this and yet I continue to go down that path. I want to change that. I want to look at men and dating differently.
I know this will not be easy for me. I have a very specific type of guy that I am attracted to. Put 5 guys in a line up and any of my friends could easily pick out the guy that I would want. I like tall, big football player body, manly men with a frat boy attitude and boyish charm. I don't like wishy washy guys, artsy types, or men that appear weak in any way. And yet I want them to be romantic and sweet at just the right moments. Basically I want to date big foot......because the guy that I think I want is just as elusive. So, I have made a conscious effort to try and change my attitude and outlook.
I just moved into a new place last week and thought this was the best time to make a fresh start and begin a new chapter in my life. I joined 2 dating sites this weekend. I've done the online dating thing before and had some moderate success, but I always ended up with the same blockheads. So my goal this time is just to go on as many dates as possible with a large array of different types of men. I will chronicle each experience, leaving out no gory details and then maybe I can figure out what it is that I actually want in a mate. Wish me luck and here we go!
I know this will not be easy for me. I have a very specific type of guy that I am attracted to. Put 5 guys in a line up and any of my friends could easily pick out the guy that I would want. I like tall, big football player body, manly men with a frat boy attitude and boyish charm. I don't like wishy washy guys, artsy types, or men that appear weak in any way. And yet I want them to be romantic and sweet at just the right moments. Basically I want to date big foot......because the guy that I think I want is just as elusive. So, I have made a conscious effort to try and change my attitude and outlook.
I just moved into a new place last week and thought this was the best time to make a fresh start and begin a new chapter in my life. I joined 2 dating sites this weekend. I've done the online dating thing before and had some moderate success, but I always ended up with the same blockheads. So my goal this time is just to go on as many dates as possible with a large array of different types of men. I will chronicle each experience, leaving out no gory details and then maybe I can figure out what it is that I actually want in a mate. Wish me luck and here we go!
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